A marriage proposal is a very important moment in your life. Odds are, it’s a story you will be telling more than once. So it is important to put thought into it and make it good. Proposing while on vacation makes it a bit more special, but it adds a lot more logistics. Here are a few things to keep in mind to help it go smoothly.
The best thing to do would be to plan the proposal before you leave for your vacation. You should have everything set up before you show up. You also need to know whether your prospective significant other is the sort of person who likes to be in on the planning or likes to be surprised. Not only will planning make the vacation easier, but the engagement will go more smoothly. Whatever your plan is, it’s worth taking steps to make sure it appears in real life the way it does in your mind –and if you’re taking your soon-to-be-spouse on vacation just to propose, you definitely should have some plans in place.
There are a variety of individuals who can help you. If you’re planning to propose at the hotel you are staying at or at a romantic restaurant, the staff can help you. Don’t just show up and make a plan on the fly, and expect people to go along with it. Some resorts, such as Sandals and Beaches, actually have an “Engagement Concierge” to help you make the moment special. There are companies that will help you plan and implement your proposal. Apoteo Surprise has been helping people with their engagement in Paris since 2006.
Have a Backup Plan
Life is unpredictable and bizarre. If the white, sandy beach you’re planning to engaged on is struck by a rainstorm you better have a back up plan. Be prepared for something to not work out. Especially if you are planning on having an outdoor engagement. You can have a back up reservation at a restaurant. Always make sure to have a plan B.
This goes double if you’re an anxious individual or a terrible liar. If you are nervous about the trip, you can chalk that up to pre-flight jitters–but only to a point. After awhile, your behavior will become suspicious, and even if it doesn’t, you’ll spend the majority of the vacation considering how it’s likely to go rather than enjoying yourself. Don’t propose at the end of your trip–do it early, and spend the remainder of the trip having fun.
Maintain the Ring Close
If you are flying, keep the ring on a carry-on rather than in a checked bag. You don’t really need to spend the entire flight wondering if your engagement ring will get lost, do you? But also, you don’t need it in a pocket where you will keep fiddling with it. Set it in a carry-on tote. It’s the best happy medium.
Make It About your Partner
Making it all about your partner is the biggest part of any proposal. Movies teach us that we will need to plan some grand, romantic gesture, but not everyone likes that type of thing. If your beloved is an enormous introvert who hates attention, you probably shouldn’t propose loudly in front of a whole crowded restaurant. You’re asking someone to be with you for the long haul, to devote their whole life with you. If you do this in a way that shows that you don’t really know or care about their preferences, then the start of your relationship might not be that great. If your prospective spouse wants an enormous rock and you are able to afford it, then by all means go ahead. However, if he or she is the pragmatic kind who would rather put that money towards a house, respect that preference.